In relationships/marriage, we sometimes are faced with this challenge: At such moments, you can make it right or let it go... Your choice... Just never use your present circumstance to determine your life.
During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?"
In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?"
Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.
Here's the answer.
Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.
Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and a spontaneous experience.
You didn't have to DO anything.
That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet.
"Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.
Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.
But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love "Seemly" fades.
It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship... Those are love challenges which you have to decide either to win together or lose out completely on.
Sometimes, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all).
Touch is not always welcome (when it happens).
And your spouse's idiosyncrasies,instead of being cute, drive you nuts.
The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you fell in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.
This is the moment! That one moment when questions begin to pop up in your head.
At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking,
"Am I with the right person?"
And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience again... with someone else.
This is when relationships breakdown... If you choose.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. Then they would be right!!!
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for "fulfillment". At this point, permit me to say that your fulfillment really lies with you not someone else...
Extramarital "fulfillment" comes in all shapes and sizes.
Infidelity is the most common.
But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.
But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship with your spouse.
It lies within it.
I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could.
And *TEMPORARILY* you'd feel better.
But you'd be in the same situation moments later. You know why??? Because you have not learnt to find substance in-depth in your self... So, no one can give it to you and that includes Extramarital "fulfillment".
Because (listen carefully to this):
The key to succeeding in a Relationship like said before, is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found... Only then would they become right... Remember, Love covers a multitude of sins/errors...
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience.
You have to work on it day in and day out.
It takes time, effort, and energy.
And most importantly, it demands WISDOM.
You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work.
Make no mistake about it.
Love is NOT a mystery.
There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships.
If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.
Love is therefore a "decision".
Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life...
But It is entirely up to you to decide:
Who you let walk away!
Who you let stay!!
And who you refuse to let GO!!!
Go fix and make it right!
You CAN!
And You SHOULD!!!
God bless you both.